So many of us today are bombarded with multiple opportunities to make investments to improve our finances, our health, our diets, our homes and even our kids. But frequently, for couples, the last thing they see as investment, is themselves and their relationship. Here at Integrity Counselling we specialise in Couples Counselling and firmly believe that to invest in yourselves and in your relationship is one of the best investments you could ever make.
Often there is a reluctance for couples to admit to themselves and to each other that there may be problems or issues between them. It is difficult for one or the other to suggest that they need counselling or that it could benefit their relationship to see a third party about their problems.
In the past, there was a real fear among couples and indeed individuals, that someone they know might find out they were going to therapy, or that it was the beginning of the end for their relationship. The truth in fact is so much more positive. Couples counselling in the majority of instances greatly improves the chances of resolving the issues in the relationship or points the couple in the right direction where they can finish the job themselves.
In general, there are three main areas that counsellors focus on in couples therapy
No 1. Communication.
Usually the first sign of relationship problems is a deterioration in communication. Our counsellors will collaboratively begin the process of restoring communication between the couple. As this critical area of relationship is improved, there is greater opportunity to unearth other dysfunctional elements of the relationship and leads to overall improvement.
No 2. Promote / Restore Respect.
The human condition has a great tendency to view only the negative aspects of any situation, especially in relationship difficulties. The ugly headings of blame and fault surface and make any progress slow. Our therapists always encourage the parties to see each other’s viewpoints and concerns as valid and worthy of consideration. As this vital element of the relationship is strengthened, the couple can listen and hear each other more clearly.
No 3. Forgiveness & Reconciliation.
No one person has the monopoly of rightness or authority in a relationship. There is always a dual responsibility to admit mistakes and errors. Until the critical aspects of forgiveness is addressed there can be very little healing achieved. Reconciliation will follow as each other’s part in the impasse is made visible, accountable, and personally admitted so nothing is left hidden from each other.
If you are experiencing difficulty in your relationship or feel you would like enhance your marriage by engaging with a counsellor we are available to help. Our counsellors will listen non-judgmentally, impartially while lending their considerable experience to begin a journey of understanding with you. Every couple is different, every response is different and the counsellor will, with your input, bespoke a path
to improvement and change.
Please don’t put off getting help. Call or write to us today and make the decision to invest in your marriage or your relationship and protect the greatest commitment you ever made.
